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<h2>You Don't Find Happiness, You Create It&nbsp;</h2>We don't always do as other people tell us to do, we'd rather do as other people do. The brain is not always on our side when it comes to creating happiness. But also what we can do to counter this, it does not require positive thinking but positive action.&nbsp;Happiness is a skill we can train and work on. It is not about positive thinking.Have you ever found yourself really worried about something and you kept worrying even though you knew worrying won't change anything or help the situation in any way? Our thoughts automatically have a life of their own, that's why it is hard to switch your mind from worrying thoughts to happy thoughts. To create happiness by positive thinking is hard and nearly impossible.&nbsp;<h2>How To Take Positive Action&nbsp;</h2>It is really difficult to control our thoughts when we have a better chance at controlling our actions therefore, our behaviours&nbsp; are better built by positive action not positive thinking.&nbsp;We tend to look at ourselves as rational beings, perceive situations in an objective manner and process information almost like a computer.&nbsp;We just take information in but in reality very far from objective. It is actually a good thing because if we would truly be able to process and perceive reality in all its nuanced complexity, we would rather be lost. It would be an overwhelming experience.&nbsp;Therefore our brain has developed cognitive biases that help us categorize, prioritise and sort information making it more easy for us to navigate. The negative effect of a setback is more than twice as strong as the positive effects of a success.&nbsp;<h2>Question </h2>Why do we carry asymmetry? Why do we have this preparedness to experience unpleasant and negative emotions, and to understand that we need to understand the context, the environment where our brain has been evolving for so many years?​Studies show that we have evolved a negativity bias which helps our attention to be drawn to unpleasant or possibly threatening information. A good example being fighting for survival.This affects how we perceive our lives, how we perceive our relations, our workplaces, our own performance and ourselves.&nbsp;That means, our brain is concerned that we survive throughout the day. It is less concerned that we are a happy survivors so we understand that it is not strange to feel anxious, tensed or worried. In some way we were built for this but most of us long for a meaningful life with connection and happiness.&nbsp;There are ways we can cultivate happiness and build well-being. Happiness is not something you find outside of yourself or it's not something you have or don't have. It is a skill we can all work on but the problem is that we just don't do it.&nbsp;We can practice psychological exercises as much as we do physical exercises. Texting a person a word of gratitude not once but often. When it turns into a habit of being thankful overtime, one can have a large impact and to dedicate this habit to caring for their relationships. It might be one of the most powerful actions that they can take when it comes to happiness.&nbsp;Studies show that having functioning relationships is as important if not even more important as exercising well and having a good diet. It can also help us live longer.&nbsp;Researchers on things that make us flourish in life found that happiness doesn't come from wealth, fame or working hard, but it comes from relationships.&nbsp;It is not about the number of friends that you have, whether or not you are in a committed relationship with a partner, they found that it's the quality of the relationship that counts.&nbsp;Being able to be vulnerable, listening and sharing what's close to your heart, that's what matters.&nbsp;Forming good habits when it comes to physical training or having a good diet, it takes dedication and commitment. Therefore we should approach psychological habits the same way especially when it comes to relationships.&nbsp;The brain has the tendency to highlight the negatives and it is tricky to revoke it by just positive thinking, it takes positive action. Some actions are more powerful than other actions when it comes to happiness and investing your time and heart into the relationship be it at work, home or anywhere, it can be impactful in our lives.Follow us:LinkedIn: <a target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" href="https://www.linkedin.com/company/bloom-lessons" alt="linkedin.com/bloom-lessons ">linkedin.com/bloom-lessons </a>Facebook: <a rel="noreferrer noopener" href="https://www.facebook.com/bloomlessons" alt="facebook.com/bloomlessons" target="_blank">facebook.com/bloomlessons</a>Youtube: <a target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" href="https://www.youtube.com/@bloomlessons" alt="youtube.com/@bloomlessons">youtube.com/@bloomlessons</a>Credits:Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@claybanks?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText">Clay Banks</a>

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